How to have Hope while Hurting during the Holidays

As we celebrate during Christmas and revel in the excitement of the Holidays, I want to take a moment and speak to those that are hurting in heartbreaking silence.  I want to encourage you to have hope during this time of the year and every day.Hope for the Holiday season

Whether from loneliness,heartbreak, or maybe you’ve lost a loved one around the holidays; the feeling of loss can be lonely, devastating, and sometimes debilitating.  Everyone is singing songs, sharing gifts,, and exchanging the warmest embraces.  You’re supposed to feel happy and yet there is sadness in your soul.  I want you to know that I can relate to the hurt you feel.

My beloved grandmother who helped raise me and spoiled me growing up passed away a few weeks before Christmas.  My stroke occurred three days before July 4th and my grandfather passed away on Mother’s Day.  For years Christmas and the holidays are reminders of loss and pain.

The pain of losing close friendships,  beloved girlfriends, and those dearest to my family was sometimes overwhelming.  It never took much prompting to release heartfelt tears during the holidays. Whether it was a stirring movie, a poignant song,  or an unexpected kind word from someone.   Pretty much every Christmas since I was engaged at 18 years old, I  longed for someone to share Christmas with.Hope for the Hurting

However, with God’s help, I have humbly realized that someone has been there all along, loving me, caring for and protecting me.  I’ve shared with you about my stroke recovery and the bible verse my mother quoted to me in the hospital as I awakened from the stroke.  It has become a lifeline and one of my “core” verses going forward.  It is Jeremiah 29:11.

For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, plans to give you a future and a hope.

HOPE…God wants to give us hope.   What an amazing thought.  God has a plan for your life.  Just think about it; the God who created the universe wants to give you HOPE!

So whether you are hurting or you know of someone who is ; I want to share with you 7 things to help you embrace hope and not hurt during the holidays.

God Loves You

Take a moment and just think about that.  We celebrate Christ’s birth at Christmas.  We share about the stories of the shepherds and the three wise men.  Those stories are beautiful but Jesus came to die for us!  He was not surprised by the events leading up to His crucifixion.  He sacrificed His life for you and me!

Hope does not disappoint, because the LOVE OF GOD has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us. Romans 5:5

God Created You

God revealed to me in the  hospital that He created me for a reason.  God chose us  to become part of His family so we can glorify Him in our words and actions. “We are His workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works.” Ephesians 2:10.  We have been empowered by God to let others see the fruits of  the Holy Spirit.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,patience, kindness,goodness,faithfulness,gentleness,and self-control.   Galatians 5:22

We need God’s help for these fruits to grow bountifully in our lives because it is so difficult it in our own strength.

Your Pain is Temporary

I am not intending to be insensitive here because pain is real!  I’ve experienced extreme physical and emotional pain but listen to what God tell us in the first chapter of Peter.

After you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will himself perfect,confirm, and establish you. 1 Peter 5:10

As believers, our pain and suffering is temporary.  God is using our pain for His purpose.  We may feel like we are under attack and that the hurt will not go away.  Know that God is molding us via the pain to perfect our faith as we seek to live for Him!

Since we know that God loves us, He created us for a purpose, and our pain is temporary;  Here are a few things we can DO to elevate our hope and eliminate the hurt that we sometimes feel especially at the holidays.

  • Don’t Isolate Yourself–  Don’t be afraid to be around people during the holidays. Step out of your comfort zone.  Be around those who love and support you.  I went to my first candlelight service on Christmas Eve.  It was AMAZING!  I felt so close to God and my spirit was reminded of how loved and blessed I am.
  • Do Something to Help Someone–  Ask God to show you how you can help someone not just during the holidays but every day.  Each day I pray for Him to show me how He can use me to bless someone.  You will be inspired when your focus is on someone else and the joy you experience when helping others is indescribable!
  • Develop New FriendshipsThis is a difficult one for me as I am somewhat of an introvert(at least until I know you)   Since I began blogging, it has been such a blessing to meet amazing bloggers and some I consider dear friends.  We encourage,advise,and pray for each other as well.  I also joined a new Sunday School class.  The teaching and interaction of everyone in the class inspires me to dig deeper into God’s word and discern what God wants to say to me.
  • Comfort OthersTake what you learn in your times of hurt and use it to comfort others.  “God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able  to comfort those that are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.   2 Corinthians 1:3-4.  God gives us comfort when we are hurting so we can comfort others when needed.Path of Hope

Friends, I’m an experienced traveler on the lonely road of pain and heartache.   However, I want you to know you can get off that road and travel a new path!  A path that God is waiting for you to join Him on and a path that is full of hope because you remember who you are in Him.


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20 thoughts on “How to have Hope while Hurting during the Holidays”

  1. I love this entire post but your suggestions for eliminating hurt and elevating hope at the end of the article especially stood out to me. They are all practical and doable ways for people to reach out in the midst of their pain. Hope was on my heart this week as well. Thank-you for writing! (I’m visiting from CBB.)

    • Thank you for visiting Wendy and your comment too. Welcome! I am glad to hear that you enjoyed the post. This topic of the hurting has been on my mind and I wanted to share what God laid on my heart. Yes it is so important to find ways to “change your scenery” when you are hurting. This allows God to use us for his glory. Thanks again for visiting and have a blessed week!

  2. Amen, amen, amen. The first Christmas after we lost Kyle, I had to change things up. 7 Christmases later, I still don’t want to put up or decorate a tree-that was his job.

    So we do something different each year!

    May I invite you to share your words on the DanceWithJesus linkup each week? Bless someone there with your words Horace. Hugs. Susan

    • Wow! I am sorry to hear that Susan but I understand that the pain is real. I know that god will continue to give you grace and strength going forward. Thank you for the invite to your DanceWithJesus linkup. I will definitely join and share what God has laid on my heart. Blessings to you and yours in 2016!

  3. I feel like this is an unspoken truth that you’ve been brave enough to put out to the world. The holidays do have a way of reminding us of how things change and with change comes a little sadness and yearning for the past. There’s pressure at the holidays to feel nothing but joy. But grief is a process and the holidays do tend to bring back the pain. I don’t think it’s something we ever recover from, the sting just lessens with time and with a new focus on our mission through Christ and the hope we have in him we are able to move forward and find joy.

    • Amen Angela. Thanks for visiting and sharing your thoughts. As we remember who we are in Christ and keep our eyes on Him, God will help to lessen the pain over time. He is the Great Healer. Blessings to you and yours this week and all of 2016!

  4. Horace, what a needed word. I’m thankful you learned the truth that God is always with you and there to comfort you when you are hurting. His comfort allows us to be a comfort to others. And through your words you are doing just that. Thank you, Horace, for sharing your heart at #IntentionalTuesday. : )
    P.S. The Christmas Eve service is my favorite of the year … a great reminder to shine to others the Light in us. : )

    • Yes Crystal… I am so very thankful to have realized God is always there to comfort us through the hurts that occur in life. I am blessed,humbled and honored to glorify God by sharing my story. I felt so invigorated after attending my first Christmas Eve service. I would like to make it a tradition going forward:) Blessings to you and yours my friend…. you’re encouragement is such a blessing to me!

    • Hey…thanks for the visit Jessica! Yes I think we are all feel some kind of hurt at different points of our lives but we seem to feel it more at the holidays. Thanks again for the visit. You are welcome anytime:) Blessings to you and yours this weekend!

  5. There’s a woman that was begging on the corner a block from church all summer. I gave what God led and then one day she told me her husband will be back from overseas and all will be well again. So then she disappeared. Next thing I know I’m driving to church on Christmas Eve and I see her out there again. So after church I talked to her and apparently now her husband is in jail but she said it wasn’t his fault. I gave what God led me to give her, gave her my number, and told her that I was here for her. I keep praying for her and thinking of her during the day today. Please keep her in your prayers too. Her name is Felicia. God bless you my friend!

    • Wow . What an interesting experience Kelly. I will be praying for Felicia and that God will continue to give you direction. Adding you both to my prayer app. Be well friend and may God bless you and yours in the New Year.


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